Communication is the sharing of meaning, and to achieve this, it is necessary to go beyond othering. Othering destroys sharing and makes communication impossible. The most important awareness about communication is not reaching a common ground in two people's conversation, but rather the understanding between those two people. Understanding, not compromising, is important.
In this sense, a person should be able to grasp the difference between transmission and communication. The issue is not just about expressing one's own desires or problems to the other person, but rather about sharing by also listening to the other person. Because what is done by just talking without listening is only transmission, and communication starts when one begins to listen. For this chance to continue, one must be willing to engage in communication or maintain that communication relationship. Otherwise, one cannot express oneself or understand the other person. In this sense, acceptance is very important in communication. Accepting every person involved in communication as they are, abandoning the "me vs. you" language and transitioning to the "we" language that points to common ground initiates communication. Communication does not work through attempts to establish dominance. Communication seeks equality and demands freedom.
Trying to establish communication by hiding behind masks and deriving power from those masks will eventually be futile. First, a person must establish their communication from their essence. They must be nourished from their essence, and only then can sincere and genuine relationships be formed. All relationship patterns established through stereotypes and prejudices are temporary and baseless. Communication can only thrive when it is patternless and free from prejudices. Or it can truly find a chance for itself. Awareness in this sense creates reality. Now, one should sit back and ask themselves some questions. And while giving answers, one should be very honest.
Am I listening?
Am I accepting the other person as they are?
Am I willing to communicate, or is my only concern to express myself?
Am I aware of my prejudices?
What masks am I wearing?
Am I establishing a power relationship in communication?
Am I ready to share?
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